Family relationships are nothing if not fluid. Nothing about any familial relationship is written in stone and goes unchanged forever and ever, except the love for one another. It just isn't going to happen. Parents love their children, children love their parents, siblings sometimes even love each other, and the love doesn't change; but the dynamics of the relationship certainly do change. There is no way to avoid it.
Parents have a relationship with their three-year-old that bears no comparison to the relationship that the same parents have with the same child when he or she becomes a teenager. At age three, the child thought that Mommy and Daddy knew everything and had all of the answers; but at age 16, that same child is sure that the very same parents know nothing and are hopelessly out of step with the real world.
Everybody ages, and as we age, our relationships change. Sometimes they change for the better. That belligerent teenager becomes a doting son or daughter after they turn 40, and they even think that Mom and Dad are pretty cool for old folks. The parents might reach the conclusion about the same time that just maybe this kid has turned into a responsible adult and won't end up in prison after all. Relationships change.
Sometimes it is really difficult for an elderly person to "turn loose" of the responsibility and the decision making in their own lives. It is even scary to find that they have gotten to the point that they need to rely on the decision-making ability of the children that they raised. But the fact is that if we live long enough, that "turning over of the reins" will happen. It's also a fact that the easier you make it for those children that you raised to take control, the easier it will be
Mr.Samuel Anderson and Sister sophy.
Parents have a relationship with their three-year-old that bears no comparison to the relationship that the same parents have with the same child when he or she becomes a teenager. At age three, the child thought that Mommy and Daddy knew everything and had all of the answers; but at age 16, that same child is sure that the very same parents know nothing and are hopelessly out of step with the real world.
Everybody ages, and as we age, our relationships change. Sometimes they change for the better. That belligerent teenager becomes a doting son or daughter after they turn 40, and they even think that Mom and Dad are pretty cool for old folks. The parents might reach the conclusion about the same time that just maybe this kid has turned into a responsible adult and won't end up in prison after all. Relationships change.
Sometimes it is really difficult for an elderly person to "turn loose" of the responsibility and the decision making in their own lives. It is even scary to find that they have gotten to the point that they need to rely on the decision-making ability of the children that they raised. But the fact is that if we live long enough, that "turning over of the reins" will happen. It's also a fact that the easier you make it for those children that you raised to take control, the easier it will be
Mr.Samuel Anderson and Sister sophy.
No comments:
Post a Comment